When one of you is unsure about staying, and the other hopes things can still change, it can feel impossible to know what to do next.

Discernment Counseling helps couples decide what direction is right for their relationship.

Discernment Counseling is designed for couples where one partner is considering ending the relationship while the other wants to preserve it. This can be one of the most painful and confusing places a relationship can reach.

Many couples in this stage feel overwhelmed by mixed emotions such as hope, grief, anger, fear, and uncertainty. Discernment Counseling provides a structured, short-term process that helps both partners step out of crisis mode and carefully examine what has happened in the relationship and what direction feels most honest moving forward.

Unlike traditional couples therapy, the goal is not to immediately fix long-standing relationship problems. The goal is to help both partners gain clarity and confidence about what comes next.

Discernment Counseling helps you understand your relationship and choose your next step with intention.

Together, we explore three possible paths forward:

Path One: Pause and Create a Temporary Plan

  • Sometimes neither partner feels ready to decide. In these cases, we can create a structured plan that allows time and space to gain perspective.

Path Two: Move Toward Separation with Clarity and Respect

  • If separation feels like the healthiest path, this process helps couples move forward with greater understanding and reduced regret.

Path Three: Rebuild the Relationship

  • If both partners decide they want to work toward healing and rebuilding trust, we can create a clear transition into couples therapy with defined goals and direction.

Sessions include both joint conversations and individual time with each partner. Individual time allows each person to speak honestly about their experience and concerns, especially when partners are starting from very different emotional places.

This can be especially helpful when your relationship feels caught between staying and separating.

Discernment Counseling may be a good fit if:

  • One partner is leaning toward ending the relationship
  • The other partner hopes the relationship can be repaired
  • You feel stuck in cycles of conflict, distance, or emotional disconnection
  • You are unsure if couples therapy would be helpful or premature
  • You want to make a thoughtful decision rather than one driven by crisis or pressure
  • You want to better understand what led to this point in your relationship

This process helps both partners feel heard, respected, and supported — even if you are starting from very different places emotionally.

Discernment Counseling is not appropriate when:

  • One partner has already made a final decision to end the relationship
  • One partner is being pressured or coerced into participating
  • There is ongoing domestic violence or safety concerns

This is a short term structured process lasting up to five sessions.

The first session is typically two hours. Follow-up sessions are 90 minutes. Sessions include time together as a couple as well as individual time with each partner.

Generally people need at least 2 sessions to make a decision on which path they are choosing. If you choose to commit to 6 months of couples therapy with divorce off the table you will end Discernment Counseling by creating your individual personal agenda for change, which you can use in couples therapy. If you choose divorce, you will receive referrals for additional support with the process.

Fees

Session 1: $350 (2 hours)
Sessions 2–5: $262.50 (90 minutes)